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The Summons of Love

by Mari Ruti
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We are conditioned to think that love heals wounds, makes us happy, and gives our lives meaning. When the opposite occurs and love causes fracturing, disenchantment, and existential turmoil, we suffer deeply, especially if we feel that love has failed us or that we have failed to experience what others seem so effortlessly to enjoy.
In this eloquently argued, psychologically informed book, Mari Ruti portrays love as a much more complex, multifaceted phenomenon than we tend to appreciate—an experience that helps us encounter the depths of human existence. Love's ruptures are as important as its triumphs, and sometimes love succeeds because it fails. At the heart of Ruti's argument is a meditation on interpersonal ethics that acknowledges the inherent opacity of human interiority and the difficulty of taking responsibility for what we cannot fully understand.
Yet the fact that humans are often irrational in love does not absolve us of ethical accountability. In Ruti's view, we must work harder to map the unconscious patterns motivating our romantic behavior. As opposed to popular spiritual approaches urging us to live fully in the now, Ruti treats the past as a living component of the present. Only when we catch ourselves at those moments when the past speaks in the present can we keep ourselves from hurting the ones we love. Equally important, Ruti emphasizes transcending our individual histories of pain, an act that allows us to face the unconscious demons that dictate our relational choices. Written with substance and compassion, The Summons of Love restores the enlivening and transformative possibilities of romance.

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    August 9, 2011

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    • Publisher's Weekly

      May 16, 2011
      Philosopher Ruti, of the University of Toronto, seeks to rationalize the irrational by weighing in on the paradoxically destabilizing dimensions of the call of love. Among the heavy-hitting thinkers summoned are Adorno, Lacan, Derrida, Foucault, de Beauvoir, and Barthes. At the core of this book is the notion of interpersonal responsibility and accountability between lover and beloved. The Freudian "compulsion to repeat" past relationships is up for full examination, as are fantasies of self-completion while maintaining fidelity to the overwhelming, enthralling, external tug of eros. The tough ethicist in Ruti comes out in her existential impatience with "infinite forgiving" and its masochistic implications. Laced with critical theory, the work attempts to segment, understand, and explain behavior connected with the most glorious but little understood impulse and riddle involving choice versus destiny at the core of human existence. Ruti is simultaneously clarifying and obscuring, perhaps inevitably in keeping with her subject.

    • Kirkus

      July 15, 2011

      Canadian professor Ruti has love all figured out and explains why it's worth the trouble.

      Some yearn for invulnerability, viewing love as a threat; others search for the soul that will make them complete, at times losing themselves in the process. Ruti (Critical Theory/Univ. of Toronto; A World of Fragile Things: Psychoanalysis and the Art of Living, 2009, etc.) posits a rational argument for the love relationship as stimulation for personal growth, encouraging acceptance of its impermanence yet offering tips for its survival. The author makes a "contemplative rather than prescriptive" case for love as she challenges popular contemporary theories, taking on Marshall Rosenberg's "non-violent communication" as well as Eckhart Tolle's philosophy of living in the now. She argues that the past is an active component of the present within every relationship, and without conscious effort, the lover is doomed to repeat the same mistakes. Backing her assertions by citing the philosophies of psychological heavies like Freud and Heidegger, the book tends toward academic and lacks any revelation about the author's personal history. However, Ruti transcends the textbook label by eloquently examining familiar feelings in scientific language filled with romance. Her illustration of passion in technical terms proves amusing but accurate: "...we meet a person who, for reasons that may remain enigmatic, resonates on a frequency that we find precious beyond calculation."

      A psychological look at love relationships and their pragmatic benefits that cleverly blends scientific language and romantic concepts.

       

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